Abstract Excellence in performance is an attempt made by all irrespective of the profession they are in. Perfection is desired by a mentor who guides, a professor who teaches, an engineer who either designs or constructs and also a mother who nurtures. Constant progress along with the will to strive further and bring about more improvement leads to perfection. But however perfection is constantly evolving. What seems to be perfect now may not be perfect tomorrow. The true meaning of education is not just the intellectual and moral nature that needs to be developed and cultivated: the whole evolutionary being with all its instruments maust by education become perfect. True education feeds the soul, until it is well enough developed to come forward.The whole nature must be built around the awakened centre, built anew, with nothing, physical or vital, mental or moral, sensational, emotional or aesthetic, neglected or forgotten. This research paper focuses on teachers, mentors and parents who desire to become perfect gurus themselves so that their motivation and inspiration may accelerate the academic growth and personal excellence among their students, mentees or children respectively. The topics discussed hold relevance in every field of life. It could apply at home, in a business organization or a management B- School. Ultimately one should try to create an organizational environment which leads to the integral development of the individual and the organization and the realization of their potentials. The development of the group is achieved by ensuring that whatever inner development the individual realizes in his consciousness is reflected in his outer life- in work, action and relationship, in the material, economic, social, political and cultural life of the organization. Thus each individual collectively contributes to the development of each other. Leadership plays a critical role in institutionalizing human values.Values such as courage, progress, receptivity, aspiration,perseverance,gratitude,humility,sincerity,peace,equality,generosity,goodness. The first eight concerns the attitude towards the Divine, and the last four towards humanity.Any leader who does not live by these values will never be able to institutionalize this value system.Firms will have to critically look at leadership that it creates at the top.Selflessness, higher aims,ability to stand up for the values in life despite opposition, strong personal values systems compassion, are factors to look for in a leader. The main objective of this research paper is to guide mentors and teachers and help them to become successful "gurus" and get what they expect from their students and mentees. Key words: Positive Reinforcement, Locus of control, Path goal theory, Self efficacy, Self Realization, Integral Education, Spirituality. INTRODUCTION The true teacher is a help and a guide, a stimulator, and he understands that nothing really can be taught. He does not impose, pour in or hammer into shape .He consults the child's own mind, helps him find his true nature and purpose of life. The teacher attempts less to train, that is coerce, than to bring out, bring forward. He shows the students how to develop his own instruments, and find knowledge for himself. True teaching is very difficult as well as a very important thing, and perhaps the first requirement is that the teacher have an inexhaustible humility, and willingness himself to learn. External Coercion is of no use and if a pupil is not a self-starter he must somehow be inspired or kindled. One does not cease to be a student the moment one becomes a teacher. One does not cease to progress in spiritual life the moment one becomes a guru. A guru has also to progress, otherwise he stagnates and forfeits the trust placed on him by the disciple. The moment one becomes a teacher, it is not that he has just arrived. It is a fresh start, he opens a new page. He has much to learn. The first person from whom a teacher learns is from the student. It is the student who points out a lacuna in the teacher. Therefore as every teacher desires to bring about excellence in his students, even a guru/teacher himself should continuously sharpen his axe, by adding values and by getting into a continuous learning process. What is the single most important factor in the transformation of the individual and the society? Without doubt, it is education.But as yet,it has still not been explored to its fullest and utmost potential,resulting only in a fractured image of what it actually means. To go beyond the obligatory demands from education,that is procurement of ajob or respectable standing in society, we need to take an Integral Approach, focusing towards the complete holistic growth of a student. A teacher is a darsaka, who shows the way: there is a teacher who guides: one who instructs: one who makes himself available to answers when he is asked and so on. In modern life all things are mixed up, the totality presents itself at every step. On the teacher lies the responsibility to influence the growth of the student. His responsibility is not over in the classroom. It is only a peak period in the mental development. What about the moral development, the cultural, the physical development? Thus it is the teachers duty to give complete guidance to a student, spark an internal motivation to a student and help him to achieve excellence in his performance and become a economically,socially,ethically successful person in the society. LITERATURE REVIEW. TRUST One of the simplest task that needs to be done is to create the belief in the mind of the student or mentee that he/she can definitely do the task. The task is realistic. Once the individual starts believing the belief of the mentor, goals become attainable within a time frame. One of the social learning theory states that an individual's belief that he/she will be able to perform a specific task on a given situation is important in learning. This belief is referred to as one's self-efficacy. When associates have high self-efficacy towards a particular task, they believe that they can perform that task well. People will not engage in desired behaviour or will perform poorly when they do not believe that they are able to accomplish the task at a satisfactory level. For example athletes are often trained to visualize themselves performing extremely well in order to increase their self-efficacy and consequently their performance. But the challenge here is, we knew about the self-efficacy theory much earlier, but still were we able to correctly motivate our children, students, associates or mentees the way we wanted to? Did we really help them to excel in their lives and accelerate their performance track records? Probably no or let's say an insignificant yes. This is because we ourselves do not believe in that big dream that we want them to believe in. How many of us truly believe that our children could win the race irrespective of the repeated failures, they have faced. The doubt and the fear of failures stops us from believing in our dreams 100%. Therefore the first mantra for a mentor is to feel deep within that you trust those who come to you for guidance. Your deep sense of trust,conviction and belief that your child, student (associates) would succeed is very essential. Trust in itself is contagious and passes on to our students who heighten their determination for excellence in order to match up to the teacher's trust. They learn to look at the world with a brand new vision – a vision that encases personal excellence, growth and victory. When the guiding gurus develop heightened expectation from their students/associates, it pushes their personal expectations, which in response to their personal heightened expectation of their own self pushes them to work harder to match up to a performance level which suits their personal self-image. Once performance is enhanced a person motivated to work harder to maintain his self-image. It means while he gets continuous encouragement and praises from his mentor who further boosts his desire to excel and finally he gets into the habit of flying high and breaking his own track records. He slowly converts himself into a consistent high performer. A model of the self-fulfilling prophecy Source: Robert Kreitner and Anglo Kinicki, The above figure illustrates how supervisory expectations affect employee performance. As indicated high supervisory expectancy produces better leadership (arrow 1), which subsequently lead employees to develop higher self-expectations (arrow 2). Higher expectations motivate workers to exert themselves more (arrow 3), finally boosting performance (arrow 4), and supervisory expectancies (arrow 5). Successful performance also improves an employee's self-expectancy for achievement (arrow 6). Specifically, managers need to do the following: 1. Recognise that everyone has the potential to increase his or her performance. 2. Instil confidence in oneself. 3. Set high performance goals. 4. Positively reinforce employees for a job well done. 5. Provide constructive feedback when necessary. 6. Help employees advance through the organisation. 7. Introduce new employees as if they have outstanding potential. 8. Become aware of one's personal prejudices and nonverbal messages that may discourage others. 9. Encourage employees to visualise the successful execution of tasks. 10. Help employee's master skills and tasks. A lot depends on the mentor in the form of counsellor/guide/parents/teachers/bosses.